Mother in Laws

If you have a Mother in Law you love *or MIL* then I am happy for you. But for those who have MILs they don't get along with... I feel for you.

My MIL I always thought from the begining didn't care for me. Heck her son met me online. He moved from Iowa to Ohio for a job and to be closer to family, but then we realized that we loved each other and he moved back after 5 months.

She didn't like it that he moved back here. Instead of being closer to her.

Then... he hadn't had a drink before he met me. He was 24 for pete's sake, I think it was time for him to have a drink... sure when he got together with me and my friends we got him drunk one of the first times he drove out here to see me *from Ohio*

Then when he moved here I forced him to buy a new couch... haha right. I didn't have to force him.

I am just a bad influence. Then of course after knowing each other for 6 months but only dating for 3 months we decided to get married. Heck, we waited a year to get married... okay, really 10 months, but still! Sure by the time we got married we had only known each other for 16 months, dated/engaged for 13 months, but we just KNEW.

When I told my mom we were getting married she said "I'm not surprised" She knew if he was moving back here to be with me we would get married. His mom "Are you sure?" I swear if she would have had more time alone with him she would have tried to talk him out of it. But I was out there helping him move, so I was around the whole time when he broke the news.

Sure I have gotten to know her a bit better over the last 5 years *since we got married* But we only see her 2-3 times a year I would say, maybe 4 times. She acts like Mike is 20 or something instead of almost 30!

When we got pregnant with Connor right away she was like "Well I think you should have waited a while" Well too late now! Sure... finding out the day before we left on the honeymoon I was pregnant was soon *don't do the math* but we planned it that way! We knew I was going to have to have a full hip replacement, we had told her that. I wanted to have 1-2 kids before I had surgery, because I didn't know if there were going to be any issues after I had the replacement!

Then of course we got pregnant with Owen when Connor was 5 months old... again... planned! Hello! I swear we tell her our plans, or what we want to do and she either forgets or doesn't agree with them.

Oh yeah, when we had Connor she was like, OMG, but you guys are so young blah blah... HELLO! I was 25 when I had Connor and Mike was 24! I don't want to be having my first kid when I am 35!

She still acts like we don't know what we are doing. Sometimes she is too much into our business I think. Wanting to go over our Finances with us. WTF? If I was having money issues were I couldn't pay bills, or my car was being repoed, or losing my house, sure, speak up then. But we are OKAY.

Like my mom says: You are adults, any mistakes you make are yours.

I just cringe everytime we visit them, or they visit us because I just know something is going to be said by her *or my StepFIL* that will piss me off. Usually it's about the boys or finances. Then of course there is the time we were not going to come out for Thanksgiving because gas was too much money and we were trying to save money for Christmas. But we were told they would pay for all our gas.

So 8 hours one way from Iowa to MI.... they gave us $20. $20 for a van. Do you think that is paying for all the gas? I had to borrow money from my MOM to cover the cost of gas after we came home until Mike's next pay day!

OMG.... I just don't know or understand. I went through this with MY grandma. My dad's mom and dad. We don't even see her but once every 5 years or something. She alienated my mom, dad and us kids the same way MIL is alienating us now.

Okay it's late. I vented. I need to go to bed!